In this Article:
- Meaning of Life
- Advice for university students
- Personal Development
- self-presentation
- Self-compassion
- Self-treatment
- Resentment- A key Motivator
- Complexity Management
- Scheduling
- Making yourself Stronger
- work
- Taste & Style
- How to Listen
- Parenting
- Quotes
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Meaning of Life
Life is difficult and it is suffering, you have to learn how to conduct yourself in those situations. You need to pursue something deeper than happiness. Pursue things that are meaningful instead of things that give you happiness. Adopt responsibility for yourself, family, a community that is where you’ll find meaning. The goal of life is to conduct yourself so that life improves. Suffering is a painful call to action. It is a universal problem. Optimism is immersed in pessimism. You are more than you think you are.
Break down what you are afraid of in 10 or 20 steps. Maybe in 3 years, you are going to be okay in it and then in about 5 years or 10 years, you’d be perfect. How’s that for prosperity?
You don’t have a better strategy and nor does anyone else. So play life with whatever circumstances you are given with.
You have to open yourself to deep hurt and sorrow. Life is suffering, complex and difficult. Happiness is not the focal point. Find a motive in life, that makes it justified. If happiness is your motive, sufferings will make you resentful, critic and then cruel.
What would make life worthwhile? Even if it is sufferings, evil, devastating?
What to aim in life?- Deduction in human sufferings.
You Need to be SERIOUS. You are not committed to something unless you are willing to sacrifice for it.
commitment = sacrifice
Meaning is what manifests itself when you have oriented yourself properly and when you optimized the flow of information between you & chaos. You can’t make yourself interested in something. Interest manifests itself and rips you. You are compelled forward by your interest- that is beyond you- and you have to listen to it.
Meaningful experience– Watch yourself for 2 weeks and write down when you were in flow states- you forgot your existence- any movie/ music? children turn normal things into magic. children are wide eyed wonder- that’s what people love about children. A wise old man is the one who has lost what he found in his childhood. Return to childhood when you grow up.
Right place= balance between order & chaos.
You have to fight the battle of good and bad within yourself first. You sought the things in your life first.
You have to identify responsibilities in your reach for yourself. (You ask yourself: there are certain things in my life that are not right, they are making me suffer, they are making me less, can I put them in order? today? 5 things to put in order today, that you have been avoiding? This is going to make you more proper. Then you try to put more complex things in order and so forth.
Have a dialogue with your conscious- you unite yourself to your culture. freedom and happiness is not the same thing. You see and speak. stop listening to people. OPEN YOUR EYES AND EMBRACE RESPONSIBILITIES.
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Advice for University Students
There is nothing more powerful than the person who can articulate and speak.
Learn to read, speak and Write- These are the super powers.
Manifest whatever you can manifest. you are going to be unstoppable. you have to be not selfish, not greedy- but HYPER-CONFIDENT. You see an Opportunity- go & kill it!
Mission: STOP UNNECCESSARY SUFFERINGS. Responsibility gives life meaning. Responsibility is where the meaning of life is.
You don’t have to worry about what you will do after you get out of university. In university make yourself half of what you actually are and the world is going to present you with the opportunities to work on. You come to university to master speech- to transform yourself- you shine light in the whole world.
WORLD IS ALWAYS SHORT OF PEOPLE WHO COULD THINK AND SPEAK.
Untapped potential– what you would be like, if over a decade you did what you have been avoiding to do, that was important. You’d be stronger & stronger & stronger, no upper limit to that.
How many hours you waste a week? 25 hours a week, 100 hours a month? stop wasting the opportunity before you!
ITS NOT ONLY YOUR FATE, ITS THE FATE OF ALL THE PEOPLE LINKED TO YOU.
IF YOU LIVE A PATHOLOGICAL LIFE, YOU ARE MAKING A PATHOLOGICAL SOCIETY.
18 year old, you have 60 years to work at it- health, spirituality, get the hell at it! You are NOT okay right now!
Educate yourself:
- Learn new skills,
- Learn how to communicate,
- Learn how to conduct yourself.
- Learn how to stand up.
- Make yourself a force in the world.
If the state is corrupting around you, it’s on you- how’s that?- be more than you are. There is a chance at least, If you are in the ring. People need purpose more than money to live.
You make a bargain with the future, how you act now has to do something with what you want tomorrow.
Sometimes you have to beat you head with a stick to do something even though you know you should be doing it. No sympathy for that you have to do things cuz otherwise it’s worse. You can’t bent the structure of reality. Everything you distort comes back and mostly in a magnified way.
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Personal development
Self-presentation
Depressed people slump over. there is a strong relationship between your dominance hierarchy and your belief system. You want to present yourself to the world in a manner that doesn’t disgrace you because the consequence of disgrace is emotional dysregulation, more pain. The best way to present yourself is to stand out, stretch and occupy some space. It is a sign of confidence. It regulates your mood and other people will start treating you as serious.
Success= confront things that frighten you, forthrightly and with courage.
Self-treatment
you should figure out how you should be treated not how others will respond to you. you don’t want everyone to be nice to you, there’s no challenge in that. it’s pathetic. PEOPLE TREAT OTHER PEOPLE BETTER THAN THEY TREAT THEMSELVES. Act as if you genuinely care about yourself, partly because you have something valuable to bring to the world. Even if you are not happy with how you are, you still have to love and care for yourself, you still deserve that.
Self-comparison
Compare yourself with who you were yesterday not with someone else. Set an aim and then get small goals towards it. AIM high but use yourslef as a control. I have to move forward than miserable me yesterday that’ll propel you forward very rapidly.
Resentment is a key motivation.
To listen to your resentment is the best thing you could do. Admit it exists. Admit to the fantasies it’s generating. Admit what you’ll need to know to get to move forward. Learn things about yourself that you do not want to know.
Resentment means:
- Shut up, Grow the hell up and quit whining and get on with it.
- or Someone is playing tyrant to you ( might be u) and you have something to say and do that you should say or do to put it to stop.
A resentful person wants other people to change and if you are resentful, then your motivations aren’t trustworthy. Have I done everything that possibly could set my life straight? If you are feeling resentful for what you are, for how your course of life is, make the damn thing straight.
- Try it for a week, a year.
- Try not to say things you know are false.
- Try not to do things that you know are wrong.
- and just watch what happens- give it a shot.
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Complexity management.
What happens when horrible things are chasing you. Well turn back and start chasing them!
An adversary makes you stronger, the cool part is the one who puts you on adversary thinks that you’ll win.
You will be faced with tyrannical illness in people that you love, so what will you do in such circumstances? You have to be alert to when you are suffering. You have to be alert to the beauty of life, the unexpected beauty of life. You need to look to those little bit of sparkling things in darkness when things are bad. You have to see what is still beautiful, that’ll get you through. Maybe it’s tragic and NOT hell! You learn things painfully, when you learn painfully, part of you dies. Life is a constant process of death and resurrection.
Scheduling
The trick is you see what is an ideal day for you and you plan it. Ratio of responsibility: reward– you have to negotiate with yourself. Stop saying things that break you apart, and that make you weak. “ 95 % THINGS that I said were making me weak. If that’s wood and it burns, it leaves me with 5% of the rusk. Well if the leftover is solid, maybe that’s what we want.”
Make yourself stronger
Animals are predators but human beings are going to play with you in all sorts of ways. Make yourself stronger just to get through obstacles, you need to have a strength of character. There will be a cost if you interfere with me. It’ll be the minimal cost necessary but don’t think there will be no cost. If a bully pushes you. You say there is a cost for this and you are going to pay it. Then the bully will go elsewhere. Predators prey on the ones who retreat, and who do not go for a fight.
Its not okay for you to be weak, loser. It hurts you, your family and the world.
We take responsibility starting with oneself . not to change somebody, not to change any social structure but you first.
Work
It’s not a matter of asking, it’s a matter of negotiating. Here are 6 things why you should give me a 6% raise and here are 2 bad things that’ll happen if you don’t. You have to think strategically. You have to be disagreeable- you have to negotiate on your behalf.
Pursue what makes you good. Bliss?- no!
Find a hierarchy that matches your temperament.
Taste/ Style
Clean up your room – you have to be tasteful, if your room doesn’t serve you, you won’t be happy. Taste beats money!
How to listen to people:
Two brains are better than one. In a conversation, you may get 99/100 things useless but you will find 1/100 things that you did not know before. You try to present the situation as clearly as possible. it will make both of you psychologically better. The motive of a conversation is that it leaves you and the other person, both, better than before.
People are actually going to listen / understand you after they agree to your notions/ ideas and that is an amazing thing. Because if you disagree with somebody, you will take the talk, make it the most stupiduous argument out of it, then demolish it. You walk away feeling right, dominating them.
Instead, you take that and say, I will make your argument more stronger than it was before because maybe they cant express themselves well but they have something to say. Make their argument strong.
Before presenting your own point of view, it would be necessary to really achieve the other speaker’s frame of reference to understand his thoughts and feelings so well that you could summarize them for him. — and this is the most difficult thing to do but effective.
TRUTH PRODUCES HEALTH.
If you think a conversation is dull, its because you are stupid, you are not listening to it properly.
Ask questions- good way of communication. pay attention- attention is always looking beyond what you already know. pay more attention to the person you are talking to, you will be in dance with them. It’s a deep choice to make:
You want to be right OR You want to be Learning.
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Parenting
If your child is popular- great! other children want to play with him- you are a successful parent. Children develop when they play when other children involve them in play.
Freud- the good mother necessarily fails. Every step your child takes forward, you back up.
Faith is our attitude to how we are going to take life as. Decisions to confront unknown is dependent on faith. Raise a child, instill faith in him. Faith in his own confidence and abilities in him.
If you want to make someone encouraged then set them a set of optimal challenges and allow them to see themselves succeed.
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Quotes
What you find most will be found when you’ll least look.
That what you are afraid of and avoid is the gateway to content.
Beware of wisdom you did not earn.
BE CAREFUL WITH WHOM YOU ARE SHARING GOOD NEWS WITH.
Create individuals that can grow up to be independent.
You learn things through the voluntary contact with things that frights you or disgusts you, IN FILTH IT WILL BE FOUND.
Read as if it matters. Read as if the person is writing for you.
People are striving for encouragement and they donot need much.
You might not get what you wanted but you’ll get what you needed.
That’s faith- I am going out in the world to get my fortune and if I do that correctly, the fates will co-operate.
Pursue what you want to pursue- you will encounter the things that you avoid encountering. You see something good, you let them know how much you appreciate it and hope that it replicated. keep that up.
Kids bring about the best in people.
Humility- what you donot know is more important than what you know.
If people were presented to choose between being hated and being ignored. They’d rater be hated because that way they’d exist.
If you demolish hierarchy- you demolish value.
How you organize is partially who you are and partially how others demand you to be organized.
Your brain operates as if the most real thing is the meaning of something.
Vulnerability is built in the structure of existence.
The thing with the old people is you let them do things to make them feel independent for as long as possible.
You have to accept there is a spiritual war going on within you.
I act as if God exists.- Jordan Peterson
You do not create values, you dive into yourself and rediscover them, that’s the same for God.
Discriminate men! Yes, discriminate chaff from wheat.
If there is 10 things wrong and 1 thing right, keep the 1 thing, don’t burn the whole damn folder.
God only knows to what degree you are in love with the worst of you. He gives you a rub accordingly.
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Learn to think, speak, write- you will be deadly
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How to write
- Workspace– have 2 monitors. Have a good breakfast after a good night’s sleep in the morning. Then write for 90min-3 hours daily.
- Levels of resolution– 1. Selection of words & 2. Crafting of sentences- Each word should be precisely the right word in the right location in each sentence. Grammatically correct manner. Each sentence should be properly arranged and sequenced inside a paragraph.1 para- 100 words- 10 sentences || 1 para- represents 1 idea. Brevity conciseness is beauty. You should not be bored or boring. Put yourself in the right state of mind for writing. You have to be trying to produce something of worth, beauty, and elegance. Choose topics that are important to you and remember Finished beats perfection.
- The topic and the reading list-List the questions you will answer. Create/ finalize your reading list Read a bit then write down what you have read, any questions that have risen in your mind- Never copy the source word for word.
- Outline– Choose topic. First draft should be longer than the final draft. For 3000 word essay- subheadings to 10 main outline sections. Write a stock introduction (how essay will proceed). Stock conclusion (how it proceeded)
- Paragraphs. Write 10-15 sentences per outline to make a paragraph. Do not worry about grammar here. Just produce. Where ref needs to be added write (ref #xyz).
- Editing and arrangement of sentences within the paragraphs. Place each sentence on its own line. Rewrite each sentence below- another version. See what’s better. Make it Short/simpler (cut length by 15-25%). Then write the whole para new version and the old combo together. Do this with all paras.
- Reordering the paragraphs
- Generating a new outline. Don’t look at your essay with an outline while you’re doing this. Now see and check your essay with the outline and cut short extra paragraphs maybe sentences. This is ur final essay.
- Repeat– Wait few days then repeat steps. Sentence rewriting/ reordering.
- References and bibliography.
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