How to be feminine with big personality

“Elegance is when the inside is as beautiful as the outside.” – Coco Chanel

5 Areas to Nurture

Outer Beauty: Express your feminine energy- skin care, makeup, outfits, eating healthy, exercise, and mature (don’t depend on others to tell you what’s beautiful in you, especially men)- compliments are good but scale should be yours. 10 minutes every day but donot be OBSESSED with beauty.
Your nest: Your home, room- decorate, style, design, clean, organize- women’s touch! -colors, favorite pictures, things you have- maintain them. Minimalism- balance, the place must feel like you, You feel happy in it, your house is not for Instagram posts but for you! Clean, dust, and make it warm and inviting. Bless the place so in turn you get blessed.
Relationships-Friendship, family –> communication skills, apologize & forgive. Actively listen, always ask questions, and actively remember answers, when you give others your undivided attention, you are nurturing them. Be courageous to express your needs. gentleness: express wit and gentleness without being offensive. Don’t be passive, and don’t be a people pleaser, because then people will run all over you = unhealthy. Stand up for yourself.
Mind– Talents, cultivate hobbies-cook, paint, nourish self and community.
Character– being exceptional, – patience, kindness, loyalty, faithfulness. have resilience- no girly girl- Pick urslef up when have a setback.

If u have high level of respect for urslef, you are automatically going to command that respect from a man or anybody per say.
Do not go on giving advice and opinions, wait for people to ask you.
Understand how to set boundaries.
- 1) State what u believe .
- 2) State what you respect and what others believe.
- 3) Then tell them the condition on which the relationship will continues as long as they abide by it.
keep personal matters personal.
You want to be a woman that when she opens her mouth, people want to listen. Keep your voice pitch calm and low- no vulgar language- speak slowly
Give urself time to relax- practice deep breathing. stomach in and out- quickly calm body- stress free
Be giving to yourself- charge urself. buy urself coffee/ flowers/ listen to your favorite book.
Show your superiority by controlling your feelings. Donot get irritated or angry and answer back in an angry tone, but a place for everything, and everything in its place. Stop being defensive- manage your emotions.
Pick the highroad- stay out of drama, pick your battles, women seeking drama is not elegant.

Dress according to the event..
Punctual- don’t be late
Body language- smile- sit up tall and nice, walk- crown up, head up.
- Transitions shouldn’t be abrupt- your movement should be with ease while grabing objects
- Know where your gaze goes-not wandering eyes- nor too fixated- Don’t have a resting bitch face
- Never raise your voice so high that it gives the risings of harshness.
- peak slowly, cadence of language- Depth of your voice.
Be cautious about what you are taking about (no gossip)(not about yourslef)(don’t dominate conversation, it should be equally balanced).
Lend assistance- help, hey what do u need me to do? Always bring something for the host.

Become okay with being the worst person in the room-if you are worst you can only go up, and everybody else is somebody you can learn from!
Treat real life challenges like video game levels. 100 % okay with dying , trying again and again to reach next level.
Become comfortable with treating harsh realities-don’t shy away from harsh painful things, its worth it.
How could I be wrong here? What others see that I cannot? Open to notice your blind spots.

Commit to hairstyle. See what suits u. Commit to an outfit daily.
Wear accessories- belt/ purse/ necklaces/ delicate , chic and elegant
Nice shoes and purse- never stuffed.
Carry umbrella when its raining.
Eat better- it affects your confidence, brain power, skin, eye tissue, beauty, how u feel.
Posture- upward, shoulder back, own your height.
Have a polished and defined style.
Privacy and mystery-no oversharing not too intimate with general ppl.
Serene confident= peaceful, humility- no showoff!

Less is more. neutral and plain – let your style be simple.
Wear flattering colors- suits your body silhouette, good fit
Invest in your grooming/ nails, makeup, hairs
Be clever with budget-see high-street stuff, feel it. Tailor accordingly. Invest accordingly.
Choose expensive looking colors- ivory, neutral, whites, brown, beige, mono chrome colored outfits,
Have statement pieces-handbag high quality, sunglasses, watch, jewelry, bracelet, pearls, heels, hats
Coats, jackets, blazers- invest in them- they are overalls and evident in a look.
Scent- aroma of freshness- your Signature distinct smell- body lotion + mouth freshener, deodorant, mint in purse, hair wash. all combine to give off your signature scent.
Don’t wear what others are wearing- common jeans stuff
Nail colors elegant- classic red, burgundy, nude colors, pink shades, plum
No wrinkled clothes
No more than 3 colors per outfit (eg grey, white and navy) ( RULE = 2 neutrals and 1 accent color)
Pointy shoes/ heel or flats- elevate outfit
Tidy hands
Avoid dirty shoes and heavy shoes.

These are the notes I made whilst watching YouTube videos of